Don’t Allow Babies And Toddlers On Flights

February 4, 2010

in Baby & Kid Stories

Let me begin with a little background: I am in my 40’s, I have 3 children (ages 18 -28) all of whom I never took on a plane until they were age 7 or older – obviously I don’t believe in babies and toddlers on airplanes. To parents of small children I say, “Drive to your destination!!!” I also have issues with late-in-life-first-time parents who are enablers (aka: overly tolerant of negative behavior).

I do realize sometimes there isn’t much you can do to calm a crying baby, but you should, at the very least, try to do something, especially when you are in an enclosed space with a captive audience. I, and countless others, have paid our dues as parents and have no desire to be part of a total stranger’s parenting (or lack thereof) experience.

During a flight from West Palm Beach, FL, to Birmingham, AL, I had the displeasure of sitting across the aisle from a 30-something couple with an infant. As they boarded the plane the child was crying, and I don’t mean whimpering… I mean full-out-lung-capacity screaming. I thought perhaps the baby was hungry and they would feed her once they seated. WRONG!!! Neither parent made an attempt to feed the child, burp it, or comfort it in any way to calm its squalling and stop the distress (to all involved).

Anyway, the poor thing continued its scream-fest for at least an hour at which time, I assume, it finally passed out from exhaustion. Five minutes later as we were landing in Charlotte, NC the mother decides it’s her nap time so she hands the finally-sleeping child to her husband. BIG mistake!! Jostled child wakes up and once again starts screaming. Mommy-dearest, however, is still determined to take a nap leaving dear old dad to deal with the child from Hades.

Back in the air again, the child continues to cry the entire flight to Birmingham. Once deplaning begins, Mom of still-screaming child pops up to get her baggage from the overhead making the rest of us wait while still listening to HER little darling. Needless to say, after 3 hours my nerves were raw. I got up, pushed Mom back into her seat and cleared the way so the rest of the passengers could escape. Upon my exit I heard her comment on how rude I was.

{ 37 comments… read them below or add one }

MJ February 4, 2010 at 6:15 pm

"Drive to your destination."

So my parents should have driven from the United States to Finland when I was 3 months old? Dad was sent there for work and didn't want to leave mom home alone for several weeks with a newborn.

God, I don't have any kids and I'm more patient than you are. I agree that flights with screaming babies aren't pleasant, but physically pushing a woman? Yes, that is rude. Next time, bring earplugs or noise canceling headphones.


Hugh February 5, 2010 at 12:24 am

You were rude, also intolerant, and quite frankly a jackass. Air travel is allowed for anyone regardless of age. According to you, what shoud the minimum age be? Should someone be required to call you and get permission for a child on the borderline? How about an upper limit? Old people move slower and cause me to wait…so should they be banned also? People who don't speak the native language take additional time and effort, and it's SO annoying when I can't understand their conversation, plus sometimes their food smells funny, so what's your ruling on them? Please post your home number, cell number, email, work phone, and home address so we can all check with you prior to purchasing airline tickets.


Demitage February 5, 2010 at 12:34 am

You actually pushed her? You put hands on her? That's beyond rude. You were the childish one. You are lucky you were not further delayed by a night in jail for assault.

What do you think Hugh? Stuff an apple in his mouth and par boil him in oil? 😉


Kevin February 5, 2010 at 4:22 am

While I do not agree with his actions or his opinion on the Age Limit, he does make a valid point that parents who fly with their children have a responsiblity to try and keep their children as quiet as possible on the plane.

My question is, if parents are willing to let their kids scream and cry in public, what do they do at home? If you comfort your child at home to try and calm them down, why wouldn't you do that on a plane in public?

I have a 20 month-old and my wife is due with our second in 8 weeks. We took our oldest on a flight from Richmond, VA to Grand Cayman when he was 10 months old. We brought plenty of stuff to try and keep him occupied and happy throughout the flight. While he did fuss a little during take-off and landing, over-all he was easy. I know all babies aren't easy, but at least be prepared incase your child is not.

I will point out, and most parents will probably agree, babies generally don't cry for an hour straight, unless they have colick. Most babies tire out long before that, so I will throw the BS flag on this guy's story for how long the baby was crying…


mike February 5, 2010 at 4:42 am

What a jackass, I can't believe that you actually pushed her into her seat. If you touched my wife while we flew with our newborn I would have knocked your two front teeth out.


Winona February 5, 2010 at 7:00 am

What shouldn't be allowed is parents who can't seem to handle their children – but you go ahead and try that. In this case, the infant was just inconsolable. It happens. Obviously you don't remember that from when your children were very young. I recently flew with my 3-year-old (who was a saint the whole time) and my 4-month old (who cried every time someone spoke over the PA, but was quickly calmed down), and had no major problems.

You're a jackass, and had you tried that with me, security would have met you at the gate and you would have been charged with assault.


Aaron February 5, 2010 at 8:41 am

It's a hellish thing to bear, but pushing her crosses the line big time.


eyeroller February 5, 2010 at 10:49 am

I think its bs. I bet if it did happen, he sat there and waited for mom and didn't touch her or even go near her. ::Eye roll:;


Jim February 5, 2010 at 11:58 am

Pushing her was wrong….

But agreed, that people that know their children do not have good temperaments should not travel on an airplane with them unless absolutely necessary.

We have all paid for our tickets, and as such, deserve a pleasant and quiet flight as much as possible….I don't bother you…please don't bother me, or let your child bother me.


Amber May 18, 2016 at 11:15 am

For all we know this instance of travel was for a move, a funeral or other emergency. Saying parents shouldn't fly with children unless absolutely necessary is stupid, you don't know why they're already flying, it could be they have no choice in the matter. Quite frankly I've been more disturbed by other adults being rude in public places then a child crying.


King Herod February 6, 2010 at 3:40 am

I agree with the guy who posted this story.

No screaming kids or babies on flights.

Oh, the Finland guy, there are things called boats, they go in the water.

Or you could have gone by canoe.


MJ February 9, 2010 at 11:43 am

I'm female. And don't be asinine. Of course, given your username, I should really expect anything logical or intelligent in your comments.


Smiling Charmer February 6, 2010 at 6:22 am

When you buy your ticket you are entitled to be taken from point A to point B; everything else is the luck of the draw. If there aren't any:

crying babies

child brats

smelly, sloshed, obnoxious, rude people


well, then you're lucky.

If they're there, take a deep breath and deal with it. You can't have everything your way in life.


Teddy February 8, 2010 at 6:59 am

there are simply some things beyond your control…I suggest noise cancellation headphones and a loaded iPod

A personal suggestion is the $20 Skullcandy earpieces and any sort of portable music device. as a frequent flier, this works pretty well, droning out babies and engine noise


burgur February 9, 2010 at 7:09 am

May be the airlines should introduce additional new flights that says “baby/toddler free flights” – seriously this will be helpful for some sick people and seniors.

I completely agree with the author; you pay $$ to fly and that one hour journey turns to be a hell – not good, agreed.

But you don’t have to be so rude honey! I understand that the mom/dad failed to calm that child, still, pushing is little too much and unfair. I have travelled on long haul flights US to Europe then to Asia and I have seen moms/dads trying to calm babies.

In my case, I had to travel with my 9 month old on a family emergency and the flying time was 18 hrs. I gave him a small dose of Tylenol as per his PCP’s suggestion to calm him for his ears popping. He was such a darling for the first leg and then the second leg, I almost cried because I knew he was getting on to others nerves so I took him away from the seat and stood for almost 4 hrs near the emergency exit door and diverted him and played with him. It was hard to explain a 9 month old that it was a plane and there are lot more people travelling!

Unfortunately, the turbulence began and I was asked to take my seat. I was nervous because what if he cries again and poor passengers… Like I anticipated he began crying again after 10 minutes and I was like begging the flight attendant to let me go back to the exit door which she could not do as per rules. My husband and I were giving him all that we had, toys to cell phone nothing make him quiet. We had to literally keep saying sorry to who ever saw us struggling.

Ohh one more thing, you will end up sailing for ever if I’d have to go to Asia! And remember babies are babies, even if it is boat they are going to be the same old creatures and one cannot jump and swim if people in the boat gets mad for a crying baby….

So dear author, next time you see a parent uninvolved when their kid is crying, don’t push them instead tell them what they need to do. And also keep in mind there are some kids who don’t calm in spite of trying everything, in such cases you have to forgive them and use ear plugs like some one said.


Tom February 10, 2010 at 4:13 pm

Well you've set the small minded, provencal tone by seeming to assume that everyone's family lives on North America, or at least should… but lets assume you're capable of logical, rational thought…

Have you ever considered that it is probably just as intolerable for the parents as it is for the other passengers. I have never met a parent who looks forward to taking their baby or toddler on flight, probably because of small minded idiots. Who knows what these parents had been through in the previous 24 hours — a sleepless night, a (few) cancelled flight(s) — the kid could have had trapped gas or an ear infection. Airports aren't exactly sanctuaries of serenity and relaxation.

Having said this, of course there some parents who are better at being parents than others, but doesn't this go for every type of passenger? Babies can't rationalize or control their actions, drunk/smelly/loud/opinionated adults certainly should be able to.


Jim February 11, 2010 at 5:16 am


What you seem to overlook is that the parents chose to have the child. As such, sleepless nights, crying babies, etc…is what they signed on for. It is their responsibility. And, they should not expect the world to gladly accomodate their choices in life.


Amber May 18, 2016 at 11:18 am

You are an intolerable prick, just STFU already.


RJ February 11, 2010 at 9:08 am

It's already been said here many times, but I'm saying it anyway – who are you to dictate to others that they should drive with their small children because it might inconvenience you if they flew?

Not everyone has that option. Not everyone has your circumstances. Good for you that that's how you did things. Now shut up about it.


Jim February 11, 2010 at 10:03 am


Who are you to dictate to others that they must put up with someone elses small, crying children…because it might inconvenience the parents to drive?

Good for you that you had children…good for you that' s how you did things. Now shut up about it, and go raise your child…and, quit expecting everyone else to accomodate your decisions to procreate and your decision to fly with your small, noisy child.

Your child. Your responsibility. Not mine.


RJ February 22, 2010 at 9:32 am

Hey dumbass? I don't have kids. I'm a nanny. Who the hell are YOU to dictate anything to anyone? You should be concentrating on pulling your big oversized head out of your big oversized ass.

You come near any kid I take care of and you'll be in traction.


Jim February 22, 2010 at 9:57 am


You get paid to take care of the kid…so, even more your responsibility…not mine…dumbass.

If I have to put up with their screaming and crying on the plane…because you do not know how to do your job…then you should give me part of your salary, for enduring what should be yours to endure.

Obviously, if the parents have hired a nanny…they don't even want to be around their kids or take a hand in raising them….and, then the flying public are subjected to their "little darlings". Pathetic.

Bottom line…I have flown many times with good, well-behaved kids. The parents were attentive and sometimes stern. You could tell they were good, involved parents…. and, I do not mind flying with those kids or those parents…and, for those I am sympathetic when the kids get fussy and tired…because they have tried.

but, there have been times when kids on flights were absolute brats, and the parents did not make any effort to parent. And, to that extent…those people should not fly….again, they chose to have the children…they should raise them…or pay you to raise them…and, not expect the world to accomodate their choices.


RJ March 2, 2010 at 11:00 am

Hey Jimmy, dumbass, honey? If you had just acknowledged this:

"Bottom line…I have flown many times with good, well-behaved kids. The parents were attentive and sometimes stern. You could tell they were good, involved parents…. and, I do not mind flying with those kids or those parents…and, for those I am sympathetic when the kids get fussy and tired…because they have tried."

Instead of making your obnoxious blanket statement in the first place in response to mine, we wouldn't have had this exchange.

Oh, and Jimmy? I do my job, and do it well. Why don't you find one, too?


burgur February 11, 2010 at 10:36 am

“They should not expect the world to gladly accommodate their choices in life” – what a brilliant statement!

Wonder why we completely forget what we were taught as kids; adjust, be nice to each other, forgive, love, courteous and respect.

Jim, I agree with you it is sole responsibility of a parent to manage their kids. But what would you do if a baby is not calming down in spite of a parent’s attempts to pacify that child?

Someone pointed earlier that no baby cries more than an hour – I don’t agree with that.

Jim, you said parents have made a choice to have a child knowing how life will be after that – you’re right its100% true. Like wise you must also realize that when you made the choice of flying with 100 more people of different ages you should also be aware of the crying babies, dirty toilets, broken seats, stinky passengers, cramped space and many more. (That’s what you signed for)

You cannot complain! If you think that a parent had failed to play their role in controlling a crying baby, I stand by you but what will you do if the baby is not calming down in spite of all the attempts to keep him quiet? Each child is different, one will calm down with in 5 minutes while another will calm down after 20 minutes and some will never calm down at all. What will you do at that time?

Because they don’t understand anything they are called “babies” and because we know what is around us we are called “adults”!

Complaining passengers should fly on a private jet!

We grown ups are unable to tolerate a baby crying and express our frustration by writing on a blog like this or even being rude by pushing; same way a baby is unable to tolerate something that he can’t tell out in words instead expresses by crying.

We adults are no different than babies!


iaflyer April 1, 2010 at 12:44 pm

"We adults are no different than babies!"

I agree. Babies whine on planes. Passengers whine about the babies whining and their parents. Parents whine about the passengers. Geez.


Beautifulbum February 13, 2010 at 1:21 pm

Shall I also add on that baby basinet are disgusting. Airlines do not wash or change the cover. Imagine a baby before yours peed or poop or vomits on it and the mother just wipe it off? Too much bacteria to even mention. big DISGUSTING


Me March 31, 2010 at 11:47 am

Not all kids are horrible on flights! My daughter took her first flight at 2 months old, and then again at 19 months. The first flight on the way to Las Vegas, she never cried once! On the way back she only started to cry after the plane had already landed! The second flight this past December, she cried just before landing, but on the way back she didn't cry at all. She is a very well behaved child. Just because some parents can't control their kids, doesn't mean that ALL kids are spoiled rotten brats. If you don't like having kids on your flight, why don't YOU drive to where ever the F*** you want to go!


Reasoning_Doubt December 30, 2013 at 12:30 am

Me– most people who say "my kids were good travelers," had children who are horrible little beasts. I bet nobody liked your kids, and your husband slept with his coworker.


Love It! March 31, 2010 at 12:23 pm

Sometimes parents suck, sometimes the kid cannot be consoled. Enough of these "I'm the victim because of a screaming child" stories. They're kids! Bring ear plugs or headphones! You'd be amazed at how much you don't hear!


Agree June 14, 2010 at 8:49 am

I TOTALLY agree with the original author about screaming babies. I would pay an extra fee to have a flight that doesn't allow children!! We should at least have that option… Or perhaps a 'cry room' would help


Waldi June 14, 2010 at 1:23 pm

Me, bringing earplugs? How about parents bring duct tape for those s(p)oiled brats?


Reasoning_Doubt December 30, 2013 at 12:31 am



crella June 15, 2010 at 1:04 am

These blowhards, early in life, have doubtless puked, burped or shat on someone…it's only because they can't remember what they did at that age that they can pontificate.


Lisa July 2, 2010 at 12:39 pm

Idiot…you actually PUSHED the mom? If you would have pushed me, I'd have pushed you back..hard. You are lucky you didn't get charged with assault!!

Sorry, if you choose to ride the Greyhound in the sky (in coach..I don't think kids should be in first/business classes), you don't get to choose who to fly with. If you don't like it, start your own airline that offers baby-free flights.

pre-kids, I never cared about kids near me when I flew. I did, however, hate being seated next to smelly or obese people, but I didn't have a choice, did I? neither do you.

we are flying in 2 weeks to England to see grandparents who are too old/sick to fly here. Yes, we are bringing our toddlers and will do our best to stop the crying, if there is any. But sometimes you just can't control kids at that age.


Reasoning_Doubt December 30, 2013 at 12:32 am

If you cannot control your children, you should not be a parent. What a stupid little she-chav.


Kayla November 8, 2010 at 12:56 pm

You are no jackass! People who bring their screaming babies on board an aircraft are not only the jackasses but are the most rude, inconsiderate, self absorbed humans breathing. Psychologically, the most annoying sound for a human is a baby screaming. Yes, I am a psychologist so I have proven statistics. It's annoying parents, so learn to be more considerate and not take your child on a flight until it it 5 years old. We all pay a great deal of money for flights and we do not expect them to be like child care facilities. No, we don't care for your children, their comfort, or their very existance. WE JUST WANT A PEACEFUL FLIGHT. Stop being so selfish.


Banana December 20, 2010 at 3:49 pm

Wow, Kayla, I wish every psychologist had the information available to their prospective patients like you just disclosed about yourself here, so that these prospective patients know to avoid "specialists" like you like a wildfire. I sure hope you, and some other respondents here who completely lack patience and common sense, choose not to procreate. Airlines exist to make money by tansporting customers from point A to point B and their only priority is safety of passengs and the crew. They will try to make your trip comfortable but they don't guarantee it, for a good reason. You have an education so you should be able to easily comprehend this reason. Like another complainer said earlier, he flew with perfectly behaved childred; however, because of a few bad experiences he wants to ban all parents with kids on planes. Not selfish at all, huh? Headphones exist for a reason, use them! The bottom line is, you can bitch all you want, luckily the decision is not up to you 😉 You say to parents to not fly, well, parents can return the favor by being selfish jackasses and tell you "don't like it, don't fly! Why should we give a rat's behind about your comfort?" you reap what you sow. There is a good reason as to why flights where parents are not allowed do not exist. It's bad for business and completely uncalled for, so get over it or get off the plane. Life isn't perfect.


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